SELF CONFIDENCE TIPS

Self confidence tips..

Everybody needs a confidence boost sometimes, so here are a fewtips...[These self confidence tips come from Roger Elliott] 1) Feel Good when you WantWhen you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3things that make you feel good. These could be memories of goodtimes, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - usephotos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them tomind.Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the wayemotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly trainyourself to feel good when you want - a great help.2) Beat Self ConsciousnessSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how tokeep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by followingthese steps...a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usuallytell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday'you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, lookat the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who madeit and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning howto keep your attention off yourself.b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usuallybecause you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose inthe situation is. Whether you're there to:find out if you like the other people in the situationmake others feel comfortablefind out some informationmake business contactsand so on...It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and muchmore difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're allworking toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could bemaking friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficialinformation, it could be whatever you want it to be!3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell..c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good atanything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose asentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don'tlet yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the longrun it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself,it's about not thinking bad for no reason!d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn'tmean you're always going to feel